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Episode 169. Getting back into a new routine with a baby…

June 7, 2023

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Do you have a routine you abide by? If so, great! Most of us have some sort of routine that we follow each and every day to keep us organized and focused on our day-to-day tasks. Then life happens or you go through a significant life event. In my case, having another baby completely changed my daily routine. 

In today’s episode, I’m sharing focal points I’m still using as a guide as I refine my new routine. You’ll learn how our minds constantly lead us to over plan for our new routine just for a simple dopamine hit and lead us into not following through because of the unrealistic expectations our new routine plan encompasses. 

I hope you enjoy and get ready to start refining your own routine so that you continue to make progress on your day-to-day tasks.

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[00:00:00] Wendi: Hello ladies. And welcome to episode 169. [00:01:00] I am super excited to be back again behind the mic because. Quick little Peck story to this episode. I am recording this episode because the platform that I, I am using, which I really, really love and I’m here, uh, Uh, talking and. Religious standing behind technology because I love technology. It’s super helpful for me in my brain.

[00:01:25] Wendi: And has helped me tremendously with keeping up with my life. So I am not going to be angry or upset. Even though I kind of was earlier. I’m not going to lie. Um, and this platform that I love decided to crush on me again, this is the second time that it does that. Um, or has been doing this since I actually moved to this platform and it actually only has actually has been almost two years now, or maybe a year and a half.

[00:01:52] Wendi: Any who. I am recording. I was, um, kind of like going back and forth [00:02:00] to just putting this maybe episode two another week, maybe this week wasn’t the right week. And I was like, Nope, we’re not going to entertain that drama. This is exactly why I need to talk about getting back into a new routine after having a baby, because this has been going on a lot.

[00:02:16] Wendi: And they may be going on with you too, when you’re trying to get into a new routine, things happen and you just want to be like, okay, you know what? I quit. I’m going to continue and find another avenue, which nothing wrong with that. But. Um, it’s not something that we want to focus on and do a lot.

[00:02:31] Wendi: Um, it’s okay if we do it every now and then, but not most of the time or for every single task or every single goal that we have. And so with that, Um, I am really excited to really talk to you about getting back in 200 routine. After a huge major event. And for me specifically, I’ll be using. My example of trying to get back into this new routine.

[00:02:56] Wendi: Attempting to get into this new routine at too soon after having a [00:03:00] baby. And this is something that I, I noticed I was doing and trying to really, um, You know, really get into this new routine that I was not only planning, but really like trying to get to, which was pretty much my old routine, but then quickly, um, noticed that it just wasn’t going to happen. And so I had to kind of like really, um, be honest with myself and really be clear still on my priorities and my values.

[00:03:25] Wendi: And so here we are. And I want to say that I actually wanted her to record this episode like a month ago. And what happened was that I, um, when I ran a month ago yeah, a month ago. Because I was that’s when I first started to like, take this, um, new routine into, into my, um, Incorporating into my everyday life.

[00:03:49] Wendi: And so. I the first couple of days and I’m like, oh wow, this isn’t working and I need some help. And so with that, I [00:04:00] just took note of what was happening every single day and really understanding, you know, where I was and understanding what went right, what went wrong and really where I can improve.

[00:04:10] Wendi: And so all of that to say, That it took some focal points. And I’m going to share with you today. Now this is all my experience, right? Like I, I continue to refine these focal points. And I think for the most part, like this is something that I will continue to do on repeat. But honestly, you guys, like all of this started happening or like, for me to really, um,

[00:04:33] Wendi: Implement all of these focal points. Religious happened by again, me not doing it correctly. I mean not doing it right the first time. Right. Like really taking know and taking a step back and noticing how my brain was working, how I was filling up every single thing that was not going well. And really, um, also want to explain with you or offer you to notice how your mind is working when it comes to you wanting to pursue [00:05:00] your goals. Right? Like what happens to our brain? When we get into planning phase planning mode, when it comes to us, when it comes to our growth, when it comes to our development,

[00:05:09] Wendi: And so with that, I want to start off by. My saying, you know, that. Regardless of what routine you have now. You will always have. A new routine. And by that, I mean, other, you improving your routine. Because you want to either be maybe be more productive or maybe do more things on, you know, focusing on you more focusing on your family, whatever it may be.

[00:05:34] Wendi: Your routines will constantly be changing as you’re evolving. And so another thing I wanted to add before I get into like, you know, how we’re bringing it kind of like out in that kind of your brain pretty much. Is the one that’s, um, moving the needle when it comes to you implementing and actually following through when your routine.

[00:05:54] Wendi: Is that. No matter what. Routine, you have some people say they have a morning routine. [00:06:00] Some people don’t have a morning routine. Some people have. Even your routine. Some people are like me that can’t function at night because they just can’t function at night. Or at least are not as functional. Um, or can’t really produce as much, um, in the evening or in the nighttime, because of just how their body has responded and where their energy level may be. Right.

[00:06:21] Wendi: Of course, if there’s something that. That needs are. You know, really. Um, It needs to get done in it’s kind of something that they really are just, um, for the most part I’m used to doing then of course it will happen. Um, but again, it doesn’t matter if you have a routine in place or not. If you call it a routine or you don’t call it a routine.

[00:06:45] Wendi: Thing is that there is something that you are doing. Constantly that is pretty much your team, right? Like you don’t have to say, well, you have a morning routine or have afternoon routine. Or I have a routine in general. Like that’s not something that I want you to be like, oh, I don’t have one. Or, you know, I [00:07:00] don’t have a morning routine. And that’s why I’m not doing X, Y, Z, or I’m not meeting my goals or I’m not meeting this.

[00:07:06] Wendi: Because let’s be honest. Some of us can’t, you know, do you know, three things before six in the morning, or, you know, certain things like reading or things that require a lot of your attention. A lot of people can’t do that before six in the morning, either because they’re sleeping or either because they’re already working or they’re, you know,

[00:07:23] Wendi: Taking care. Of their children. You know, getting ready, getting their kids ready to go to school, whatever it may be. And so let’s be, you know, let’s be completely honest and, you know, face that there are some things that we can’t do like other people can. And so I want to offer you today to just.

[00:07:42] Wendi: You know, take a deep breath and just allow yourself to have your own routine, because that’s really what it is. Y’all like, especially in the active duty world, like. No one would ever know what your routine is, because there’s just simply not that much of a routine, of course, unless, you know, you [00:08:00] go to PT every morning and you do the exact same thing every single day, you know, for your job. But for the most part, it’s going to change a little. There’s always going to be.

[00:08:10] Wendi: Things that are going to come up that are going to change. There’s going to be training that comes up, that you’re like, okay, that wasn’t expected or different tasks or different missions or different. Just, um, Expectations are expected of you and just different things that come down. And so the thing is that this is also very true for anyone and everyone that’s going through a life transition, right? Like you don’t necessarily have to be like, oh, I’m getting into a routine. But what I want to offer you today is to just be mindful of maybe what routine you’ve already set in place.

[00:08:40] Wendi: And maybe there’s something new that you want to incorporate. And it may not even be a major life transition, right. It may be as simple as I want to change in this aspect, or I want to implement. This new thing. And remember, we’ve all gone through this change before we’ve all implemented this change or this transition when we went through the pandemic, right? Like we went [00:09:00] from everything being in person and.

[00:09:01] Wendi: Everybody’s been close to each other, everybody just being so. Connected. Physically that when the pandemic hit, it was everything virtual and we cannot, you know, really, um, be involved. You know, by being connected and so close to one another so on and so forth. So we all had to adjust and we all had to create a new routine based on our circumstances. Right.

[00:09:22] Wendi: And so that’s what I want to offer you today. Like, what can you now implement with this circumstance that you’re in? For me, it was having this new baby, and I’m now changing everything around to not only help with, you know, taking care of her because I’ll be honest, like. My husband does a, an amazing job with not only helping me with her, like he’s such a great support and he’s just, just super loving and just hands-on with our baby girl. And it’s just the most amazing feeling ever because it allows me.

[00:09:56] Wendi: To be me and do the things that I ain’t want to get done as well. And [00:10:00] not only that, but also work in also. You know, focus on my coaching folks on this podcast. Focus on. You know, volunteer work that I love doing and other, um, areas of, you know, my life like. You know, meeting with my book club group, um, meeting.

[00:10:16] Wendi: At my daughter’s school. You know, helping her out and, you know, just different things that I love to do other than, you know, being a mom. And so again, just having that and understanding. That this is something that, you know, I can implement in my day to day to help me even, you know, continue to evolve and continue to share my gift and my talent and continue to just be with my loved ones is definitely something that.

[00:10:43] Wendi: Um, one is definitely crucial in my life. I love having a routine. I love doing things that are certain time. Um, not necessarily like, um, every single day, but there are certain days of the week that I know I have to do, um, X thing. So for example, record a podcast. I know I [00:11:00] have to do that once a week minimum.

[00:11:02] Wendi: I know I have to check, you know, on certain things for my kids, so on and so forth. And so. For you, you know, what is that for you? That you, you. You know, what transition are you going into right now? And so before I go into the focal points, I wanted to say this about. How we sometimes get sucked into this huge planning idea that is super pleasurable for our brain. And that is.

[00:11:31] Wendi: Um, what we call. Our Pranger experiencing a dopamine hit. When we are in a phase where we want to change or implement a plan, implement a new routine, implement something new, our brains are like, oh yes, let’s do it. This is pleasurable. It’s a hit of dopamine. And to put into simplest terms. And I’ve talked about the, I mean, the, from before.

[00:11:55] Wendi: I can’t even speak right now. Um, it’s pretty much what I like to call [00:12:00] the feel good hormone. Like it’s a hormone that helps you. Um, that helps you feel good about it. It gives that pleasure. Um, in your mind. Of the feeling. Of good satisfaction, motivation pleasure. So that’s what dopamine is responsible for in your brain. That’s the way I like to think about it.

[00:12:24] Wendi: And so when you get that, your brain is like, okay, something’s been achieved in that surge of dopamine is then experience in your brain. And so our brains are like, okay, let’s get some more of that. Let’s get some more of that. And so what happens is that, or at least what happened to me and happens a lot with everyone. I’m pretty sure it’s happened to you before.

[00:12:45] Wendi: It’s like when we’re starting something new. For example. Great example here. Um, at the beginning of the year with our, um, goals and resolutions. Our brains, like yeah, let’s play and everything else, like, [00:13:00] like everybody else is doing right. Let’s. Plan and willing to lose 30 pounds. And we’re going to go to the gym every morning at four 30 in the morning, we’re going to eat vegetables.

[00:13:07] Wendi: We’re not going to eat as much sugar where. Going to do. Everything correctly, and we’re just going to be a better person and we’re just going to be in a better mood and we’re going to be nicer and we’re going to be more kind. And we’re going to read the Bible every day. And we’re just going to do all of that brunette check the block and everything.

[00:13:25] Wendi: And then what happens when our brains are getting all of that? Like, okay, we’re going to do all of this. We’re already like thinking that we’re going to accomplish it. And then what happens the next day? You know, Monday, the first of the first month of the year. And you don’t get done that you emit, you don’t get that done. You immediately are like, okay.

[00:13:44] Wendi: Something’s not going to, well, it’s me. I’m the problem. And then you try again the next week and it happens again because you’ve set these high expectations or you plant these high expectations that you knew you weren’t going to do in the time that you do have, right. Because let’s not forget that you’re also working.

[00:13:59] Wendi: [00:14:00] That. You’re also, um, you know, a mom and you’re doing so many other things, but you are planning. So much, and you are just. Doing so many other things that your mind lost focus of your priorities or my must focus of everything else, because you got sucked into that dopamine. Hit of wanting to just plan and probably even just overplaying the expectations that you thought you, you could actually meet. Right. And so that’s kinda like the, the background that I, you know, want to offer.

[00:14:36] Wendi: And, you know, whenever you think of doing something new, like even now, right? You’re like, okay, I’m going to get into this new routine. You know, how do I get to this new routine? I want to learn. I want to implement these steps. Your brain is already kind of like kidding. A good dopamine hit. Out of that already. So just one-on-one you to be careful whenever you’re w.

[00:14:55] Wendi: Thinking or know that there’s a change coming up. Your brain is already doing that. [00:15:00] And so with that, of course, that’s what happened to me. That’s happened to my brain. What brings it. Okay. This will surely you’re going to go to the gym normal time. Like you used to go before you can leave at four 30, you’re going to go to the gym. You’re going to come back. You’re going to read a little bit, you’re going to, you know, get the kids ready. You’re going to drop them off. You’re going to go, you know,

[00:15:15] Wendi: Spend some time with your baby before you go. To work you in jail or should have a blast before. Meetings are going to go, well, everything’s going to go, well, you’re gonna have the support there. You’re going to be eating well, all of that stuff, right. No, of course it didn’t happen the first week.

[00:15:29] Wendi: The first week was a complete what’s the word? I don’t even want to say chaos because it wasn’t chaotic. It was just chaotic in my brain because my brain was like offering me all these negative. Um, Thoughts about why I was filling in every single thing that I had to set for myself. And I’m like, what?

[00:15:46] Wendi: Why? Why is this happening to me? Why am I not at the gym? Why am I not working out? Why am I not eating healthy? Why am I. You know, just over here, struggling with putting Janet asleep, like what’s happening here, even though, again, husband, isn’t [00:16:00] amazing to add. He’s just such a great support to have. And, um, it’s, it’s just so wonderful and I’m just so blessed, but again, it was still a struggle because I want to be the one doing things, right.

[00:16:12] Wendi: Like I want to be the one involved. And so again, all of this was happening and I’m like, oh, my new routine is not working. Like, why am I not going back to what I used to do? So, you know, flawlessly and I used to be at the gym and. Everything was great. And I was in shape and all of these other things, right.

[00:16:29] Wendi: And I’m just, you know, before I could focus longer and I could get more things done at this time and so on and so forth. And so this is where we are now, right? Like now, thankfully I’ve overcome a lot of those obstacles and actually taking the time. To be honest with myself. On what I know I can accomplish in a certain amount of time. And it’s a very short.

[00:16:50] Wendi: Uh, mano time now, because remember I’m also working also have an obligation on my nine to five with my 95. And not only that I’ll also have to take some time to spend with [00:17:00] my baby. And not only that, but I also have two other kids that also need my attention. And so, again, This is something that I thought was very important for me to clarify.

[00:17:09] Wendi: And so, um, and also be clear that everyone’s routine is going to be different. So whatever works for you is not going to work for me, may not work for anybody else. And so we kind of need to start there too, like understanding that our routine works for us based on our priorities. Based on what we value the most. And so, again, being honest with yourself and being realistic on what you can accomplish is number one.

[00:17:33] Wendi: Number two. Focusing on actually getting. Your task done or whatever goal you’ve set for yourself. Means to not allow any distractions. And that can mean different things, right? Like, you know what distracts you. Like. There are things that may distract me that will not distract you. And, you know, vice versa.

[00:17:54] Wendi: Like sometimes my daughter is screaming and yelling and crying. Doesn’t distract me that much because I’m like my husband’s got it. [00:18:00] And it’s not bothering me too much. Or I know that she’ll be taken care of. But for some of you, you may be like panicking or you’re like, oh my gosh, I need to go take care of my child immediately. And for me it’s like, she gonna wait.

[00:18:12] Wendi: That like in a negative way, but in a way of like, I’ll give her time to like cry it out and so on and so forth. And so for you, what are your distractions? Is it your phone? And for me, it’s my phone too. Like if I have it and I grabbed my phone, I already know I’m already distracted. But now there’s nothing wrong with that. It’s not the phone’s fault. It’s you knowing that that could cause you to distraction and you just need to.

[00:18:34] Wendi: Really focus on. What is at task here. What’s a hand that you need to take care of. And not allowing that distraction to fully distract you. Right. It’s okay if you have your phone on your desk, but if you know you’re going to get notifications or you don’t have your notifications off, don’t keep putting an address, put somewhere else and focus on whatever you need to work on. Right.

[00:18:52] Wendi: So for me, when I’m recording the podcast, Or whenever I’m, you know, in a meeting at work or I’m hosting a meeting or AME. [00:19:00] Just, um, in a, in a meeting where I know I cannot be distracted. I just won’t mess with my phone until after my meeting. Even if I do have a phone call coming in. Even if I do have a notification.

[00:19:10] Wendi: If it’s an emergency. Someone will tell me other than my phone. And for the most part. There hasn’t really been an emergency unless, you know, again, I have been contacted multiple times. So if someone calls me one time, it’s not an emergency. And so again, it could be as simple as that, or you can even communicate with whomever. It could be, that could be distracting. You.

[00:19:33] Wendi: It would be your husband and maybe your significant other, it may be your soldiers. They may be your kids, right? Like, listen, My door’s closed. Please. When I come in here, I am. Actually doing something I’m focused on something. Talk to me afterwards or send me a message and I will get with you later, whatever it may be. Right.

[00:19:49] Wendi: Like, whatever works for you. Whatever you need to do to. Let other people know. That you cannot be distracted at that moment, because this is important to [00:20:00] you because this is something that you want to get done. Because this is the only time that you have, right? Like maybe 30 minutes or you only have, we have a paper to write.

[00:20:08] Wendi: Or you have something that you really need to get done. And so you need that time for you. So two is focusing on getting it done. Not alone for distractions and being able to communicate that with whomever, it could be. Number three, giving yourself grace. When you don’t fully accomplish or complete that task.

[00:20:28] Wendi: And so here’s the thing. This is something that I am so used to learning and that I have to be reminded of sometimes by my friends or, um, Mo. But my loved ones that it’s okay. That I didn’t complete that task. Now, this is something that. Is, um, I don’t want to say it’s new because I’ve, I did this before.

[00:20:47] Wendi: But it’s known a way where little things that I knew could only take me 15 minutes or not taking them 30 minutes. Is because now I have to be cognizant that. There was a little one that we needed my [00:21:00] attention or something else that I didn’t plan for is now coming up. Right. So maybe it’s just something that I need to remind myself.

[00:21:10] Wendi: That. Okay. I get it. This podcast is very important. I’m recording this podcast. But also my daughter is more important if she’s crying. If she needs me, if she can’t take a nap, if she’s not feeling well, That’s what I have to remind myself. Love. Remind myself that my husband is more important than me recording this podcast. If he needs my attention, if he wants to talk to me about something.

[00:21:30] Wendi: That he would really love to talk to me about, or my kids. Because again, those are my priorities. Those are my values. And giving myself Christ, so, okay. I’m not going to complete it at this moment. But I will come back to it later. And it won’t affect me at all. The only thing that I think will affect is my brain, because my brain is like, okay,

[00:21:50] Wendi: You need to complete it. You need to complete it. It’s an open loop that we have and we leave in our brain is constantly reminding us like, okay, you didn’t do this, you didn’t complete this. And so it’s kind of like distracting me [00:22:00] from being present with. Whomever it could be. So giving yourself grace, when you don’t complete a task or when you don’t complete that thing.

[00:22:10] Wendi: That involves your team. And just being okay with what is at that moment. So that’s focal point number three. Number four, the one that I really had to do, um, when I just couldn’t get myself to even like, want to work out. And again, remember I know how my brain works. My brain doesn’t want to, um,

[00:22:34] Wendi: Do anything that requires effort? Once to avoid pain and only wants to seek pleasure. Like I know this. Intellectually. I know this. And still right. I’m like, oh, why am I here? Am I not doing what I want to do? I want to work out. And then I was like, wait a minute. No, that’s not true. No, I don’t. I don’t want to work out. This is why I’m struggling. [00:23:00]

[00:23:00] Wendi: And so then my question was, why don’t I want to work out. And then I’m like, oh, duh, of course. I’m thinking of so many other things, I’m like, okay. I am thinking that my I’m going to mess up my daughter. I am not helping out enough or I’m not being, you know, there. But on the other hand, A supportive husband and have a supportive family, right? Like what’s happening here.

[00:23:19] Wendi: And the other thing was like, of course I don’t want it. You know, like seek the pain, like who wants to actually do that? Right. But then I really thought to myself, okay, what can I do? To really. Not only. To this without feeling alone, but also seeking help. And that was for sure. The first thing that came to mind was to pray. I’m like, okay,

[00:23:41] Wendi: All right, Lauren, this is probably something that I should have done before. The please help me. Help me with these distractions that I have, these thoughts that are coming in that are not serving me. Help me focus on. What I know is going to serve me in the long run. What I know you are [00:24:00] trying to help me with, but I am not submitting to.

[00:24:04] Wendi: What that is. And that was like working out. I’m not something to that pain. To you for, you know, for the pain sacrificing. You know that time away, maybe, you know, from everything that I also want to get done, but also, you know, to ask him to help me, to help me to give me the strength to give me the energy.

[00:24:24] Wendi: To just give me the willingness. Two. Get out there and run, get out there or, you know, get on the bike to a couple of, um, AB workouts, whatever it may be. And just little things, right. Then I’m like, oh my gosh, this king, this used to be so easy for me. Like it was a no brainer. I would get up and work out and go to the gym.

[00:24:44] Wendi: It didn’t have to think about it. And now I do, because I’m constantly thinking, okay. She still asleep. What a few weeks. What do I do? And all these things that are keeping me in this spiral of just negative thoughts. So, yeah, I just have to pray. I was like, Lord, please help [00:25:00] me. Please help me.

[00:25:02] Wendi: With these distractions that are keeping me distracted right now and are keeping me awake. From. The results that I want. And then, and then. Also prey. From new thoughts. Four. New ways of thinking of my workout, right? Like how can I make this fun? How can I make this more personal to me? And not necessarily an obligation?

[00:25:29] Wendi: And with that also to praise him, to praise him for everything that he’s given me all the blessings. For providing from allowing me to be a mom, worked from home, have this podcast, have this platform. So we’re able to coach women. Regardless of where they are. Just praising him for being so good to me.

[00:25:49] Wendi: And allow me to be in this phase of my life in this season. Of getting into this new routine so that I can continue. To be present with my family to be intentional [00:26:00] with what I want to get done. And honestly all like these focal points have really helped me understand that. The struggle is real for everyone, you know, starting.

[00:26:12] Wendi: A new chapter. A new season. Of their life. And it’s a reminder. Not only a reminder that I’m getting older y’all but also reminder. That you are not alone. A reminder that. There’s no easy way into. Really. Um, creating these results that you want. There’s no easy way. Like this is the process of having a newborn. This is the process of having an infant.

[00:26:40] Wendi: This is the process. Of wanting to host a podcast and have a coaching business and also, um, be in corporate, like there’s so many things. That are painful in life. And this is something that I have to go through, right? Like we have to go through this. Painful [00:27:00] season. So whatever transition or life transition or, um, change you’re making.

[00:27:07] Wendi: Just know that it’s going to get better. It may be sucking right now because that’s why I felt like two weeks ago. I’m like, how could I ever, like get back into this routine? But I tell you that God is good. And he will guide you. Allow the holy spirit to guide you and just continue to pray and praise them.

[00:27:26] Wendi: Because focals one, two and three. I don’t amazing. Right? Of course you want to be realistic with what you can accomplish. Of course, you want to focus on getting things done without the distractions. And of course you want to give yourself grace. But at the end of the day, you want to pray about.

[00:27:42] Wendi: Everything. Right? Like you want to pray about. The distractions that you’re having, like, he will help you. Find ways. To be less distracted. He will guide you to people. He will guide you to people. I’m telling you, like, I literally picked up the phone. Um, last week I was completely stressed out.

[00:27:59] Wendi: [00:28:00] Because. Um, I realized that I had people in my Facebook group community that had requested to join and I completely miss it. Like I did not know that there were seven individuals that had requested to join the community. And I had no idea. So I immediately. I honestly don’t even know how I like called my friends. I’ll quickly shout out to my friend, Marilyn, like she’s my business buddy.

[00:28:24] Wendi: And I immediately called her and I was like, Hey. I don’t know what to do right now. Please help me. She’s like what happened? And so I told her what happened and she’s like, listen, It’s okay. You got to keep yourself grace. You got to give, you know, have some, some breathing room. It just it’s. Okay. Nothing has nothing has been affected.

[00:28:43] Wendi: Oh, you have to do is just let them in, approve them. And I’m like, that’s right. But she said have grace for yourself. And I was like, yes, that’s exactly what I’m working on. I’m. I’m doing that. I promise. And immediately, as she said that, I’m like, okay, it was like this big weight just lifted.

[00:28:59] Wendi: And again, like, [00:29:00] I know God puts these people in front of me. Like again, me and Marilyn had never met and we got introduced by this mutual friend and ever since then, we’re like besties. We’re like business besties. She helps me with my business and she just, she’s just such a great person to have.

[00:29:16] Wendi: And yes, she’s a Moultrie woman. She’s a retired CW three and she’s just an amazing coach business coach. So. Go check her out. If you don’t know her. My name is Marilyn West. You can follow her on Instagram. She’s a phenomenal, phenomenal coach. But, yeah, so that’s, what’s happening over here. And so I, again, want to just share with you.

[00:29:37] Wendi: My experience like you don’t have to do these or follow these focal points, um, you know, in the sequence. But I do want to offer you to take a moment and really understand, you know, am I being realistic? With what I can accomplish in this. New amount of time that I have in this teen, right? Like this new routine that you have, wherever it may be. [00:30:00]

[00:30:00] Wendi: Because, like I said, we will all have a different routine. As we evolve as we grow, as we, you know, you may, uh, you may be single, right? As you get married, your routine will change as you have children. Your routine will change when you transition, your routine will change drastically. When you get a new job, your routine will change when you move. Some of you guys are moving.

[00:30:20] Wendi: Some of you guys are into a whole new environment. New. Um, perspective of things, right? Like you may be starting a business. You may be an investor now, whatever it may be. I want you to take a moment to just ask yourself. You know, Is this something. That is going to work for me based on your priorities and based on your values.

[00:30:43] Wendi: Because honestly, that’s all that matters here. What works for me may not work for you and vice versa. So with that, that’s what I wanted to offer you this week. I hope and pray that this episode helps you, regardless of where you aren’t. Innocent. If you would like some help and you’re like, Hey. [00:31:00] I need someone to guide me.

[00:31:01] Wendi: Our separate, really give me a plan, help me out with my plan and really implement this on a weekly routine. Reach out to me. You can go to my website that when you for slash. Consult. And you’ll be able to schedule a consultation with me. It’s also in the show notes. So that you can not only schedule consultation with me, but also even ask me a question.

[00:31:21] Wendi: Um, you can go to, when you for slash contact, you can email me there. So I really, really hope that this is going to encourage you to really take a step back and just look at what routine you have now, and maybe start implementing something new if needed, especially if. This is something that you haven’t done before. Highly, highly recommend that you start doing it now. All right ladies it’s always a pleasure to sit here behind the mic and talk to you and i’ll be talking to you again next week talk to you soon bye