Do you ever feel like you’re stuck and not making progress? Like you’re constantly working hard but not achieving your goals? Let’s put an end to those feelings! In today’s episode, I reveal the three common mistakes people make when setting goals and how to avoid them. We emphasize the importance of being accountable, taking responsibility, and the power of our thoughts.
This is your opportunity to break that cycle. Tune in to learn how to break old habits, become the person you want to be, and simplify your path to making progress towards your goals. Let’s embrace the feeling of success now and tune in to the conversation that could change your life.
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[00:00:00] Wendi: Hey sis, welcome to Beyond the Military Podcast, where faith led military women overcome burnout and create more balance. Just imagine having enough time to focus on your faith family, and have more fun while also serving as a woman leader. In this podcast, you’ll walk away with the tools to help you navigate the busy life of a military woman, organize your mind, overcome overwhelm, create a prioritization playbook, and a balance blueprint for integrating faith, family, and career.
[00:00:28] Wendi: Yeses in that order. Hi, I’m Wendi Wray , woman of God wife, mama of two army veteran and certified life coach, and I’m here to help you create a life of meaning outside of the military, a life of laughter, joy, and intentional free time. If you are ready to overcome burnout and create balance as a faith led military woman, sis, this podcast is for you.
[00:00:50] Wendi: So loosen up your laces and grab your coffee because it’s time to step into freedom and peace.
[00:00:55] Wendi: Hello ladies. And welcome to episode [00:01:00] 174. How are you doing, how is your summer going? I hope that you’re enjoying. All of it. And that includes if you have kids at home, spending time with them. Even though you have a thousand things going on at the same time. And by that, I mean, Trying to focus on just a loving them and spending time with them. But at the same time, knowing that you have things to do, because let me tell you, it’s been quite a struggle here the last couple of days.
[00:01:28] Wendi: Because I’ve been wanting to just genuinely beat with them and, you know, play around with them, especially with the baby around and. Sometimes I have to like really remind myself that I can not. Go into like the, you know, I’ll do that later mode because this is what happened. I started doing that.
[00:01:49] Wendi: And then stuff just started to pile up and I’m like, oh my gosh, I am supposed to be working on this very small task. I was supposed to [00:02:00] be working on it like two days before, and then I remembered. In that actually, I was reminded by click up. Thank you. Click up. That it was overdue and I’m like, what is happening? Like, why is this overdue? I thought I already got that done. And I did it. So again, it was one of those little things that I didn’t like really check off.
[00:02:17] Wendi: Or even got ton. Um, in order for me to check off, of course. And so again, I said, okay, I’ll just do it later. And I completely missed it. And of course, thankfully, because I have. All my tasks, like in, in one, um, view that I can see everything that’s happening today or that’s coming up or what’s, you know, overdue.
[00:02:37] Wendi: And that one came up and I was like, oh my gosh, that was like, literally, maybe 10 to 15 minute. Um, activity that I can have taken care of. Um, or could have. Took care of, and I didn’t because I was like, okay, I’ll come back. And so. All of that, to say that. I got a little distracted, which is completely okay.
[00:02:57] Wendi: This is how I really, um, [00:03:00] except the fact with myself, like I kind of give myself grace now I’m doing a lot better with that. I know that something that we struggle with most of the time, as women, as moms, as wives as just, you know, friends, we. Kind of really are harder on ourselves than we are on other people, which again, um, it’s just our innate nature, you know, like that’s what we do, which is, you know, giving yourself grace doesn’t hurt at all, but also I want you to hold yourself accountable and that’s really what I’ve been doing, right?
[00:03:28] Wendi: Like I’ve been, you know, really honest with, okay, this is what I really need to get done or had to get done. And I didn’t. Why did I not do this? Or why is this not happening? And so, you know, those conversations in my brain and even out loud can be a little bit tough. It can be difficult. Because believe it or not, accountability is a very hard thing to really do. And, um,
[00:03:50] Wendi: Really face. That’s just the nature of our human. Like nature. Like that’s just who we are. We do not like to be held accountable. Hope I [00:04:00] can’t speak today. We do not want to be held accountable. But at the same time, we don’t want to face that. That’s something that, you know, we kind of like failed to do or, you know, missed the mark or disappointed someone. Right. And like, for me, it’s myself.
[00:04:15] Wendi: And so I just want to remind you today that it’s okay. Wherever you are. And, you know, with your tasks or your things that you want to do or your goals, it’s completely okay. As long as you come back and you hold yourself accountable and you take full responsibility because that’s all really what it boils down to.
[00:04:32] Wendi: And today’s topic I want to share with you guys, top three mistakes. That I’ve seen a lot of my clients make. And by that, I mean, even myself, like we have all made this in a way where. It becomes. Very, um, easy to do. So our. Our, um, What sort of habit we build this [00:05:00] habit. On just going back to that same belief for the same thought.
[00:05:05] Wendi: And then we create this result that we didn’t want. Right. Then we’re like, okay, wait a minute. What happened? How did you know, how did I get here, right? Or, oh, by the way. I know how I got here because of this one thing. And it’s typically the same thing that you’re thinking, right. Because what we think is what we create, that’s, you know, 100% like you.
[00:05:26] Wendi: Anything that you, that, that you have, um, created or to the results or the outcomes that you’ve created come from rethinking that’s ex the, the root of where it comes from. And of course it’s done by your actions, but before actions come, the filling that get you to drive into that action. And then before the feeling comes, the thought that you had about.
[00:05:48] Wendi: Whatever the circumstance may be or the situation. And so I thought this was. You know, something that I had. Um, kind of found fascinating [00:06:00] because here’s, here’s why I think this is fascinating because. Most of us. Think about these three mistakes. And. Very similar ways. So today. I want to speak mostly on.
[00:06:16] Wendi: How these three mistakes prevent us from focusing on our, on our drinks, on our personal goals. Um, And not even just, you know, um, big goals, right. Really just personal goals. And, and I say this because a lot of us listening now are. Um, A busy woman. Like we are either. I’m working a nine to five investing in.
[00:06:41] Wendi: Other things or we’re in a side hustle, we’re investing our time. With our family, we’re investing our time through volunteership through a nonprofit, whatever it may be through service. And so there’s a lot going on. We’re serving, we’re giving. Or sacrificing, but at the same [00:07:00] time, We’re also kind of taken away from our dreams, taken away from our personal goals.
[00:07:08] Wendi: And listen. Um, not perfect. No one is perfect. And I’m not the one that’s constantly. You know, looking at our, at my mistakes or our mistakes or anyone’s mistakes. But here’s what I want to emphasize. We all make mistakes along the way in it’s completely. Okay. And all I want to do today is just offer you to look at this from a different perspective from maybe how you’ve been looking at it before.
[00:07:37] Wendi: Because if you look at it differently, or if you even just look at it and look at this, these three mistakes in a way where you maybe have never seen it before. It will help you to become aware if you’re. Possibly. So doing them or still making these mistakes. And I think it’s very important because in order for us to.
[00:07:58] Wendi: Not only grow and [00:08:00] evolve. We need to be able to see. What we haven’t been doing correctly, or what we need to unlearn is kind of like the way I like to say it. There are things that we’ve learned habits that we’ve built, that we’ve created that we’ve, um, pretty much had either through experience or just by being around people that are actually, you know, doing or, or actually taking on those habits.
[00:08:24] Wendi: And so. I want to make sure that you today. Um, regardless of where you are, maybe you’re like killing it, right? You’re like, no, I’m knocking out. My goals I’m getting after it. Um, I’m doing my thing. I don’t, this isn’t for me. You know, this may not be something that may be impacting you right now.
[00:08:42] Wendi: But you never know, this may be something that you notice with your significant other, with your loved ones, with your kids, maybe even people at work that you work with, right? Your soldiers and Marines airmen. And it’s amazing when you can [00:09:00] just not only identify, but, um, be part of this awareness that you would have and communicating it to someone, right. Like saying, okay, here.
[00:09:10] Wendi: This has nothing to do with you or your goal. This is really what’s happening, right? Like, I, I can see that this is something that you’re doing incorrectly in a way where it’s not serving you in a way where. It’s not, um, allowing you to move forward. So. This is why I think it’s so important for us to understand and notice
[00:09:33] Wendi: These mistakes. And so the first mistake is thinking that. We need to get to our goal as soon as possible. Like in our mind we’re thinking, okay, how do we get to attain this goal? As fast as we can. Because for some reason, that’s also a part of the goal. I’m like what is happening here? Trust me. I’ve that’s like the first thing.
[00:09:58] Wendi: That sometimes goes through my mind. Okay. I’ll [00:10:00] have this done in 30 days. And I’m like, wait, I can’t lose 10 pounds in 30 days. Maybe I could, but why am I in a rush? Right. So. When we do that, we’re also along the way when we’re like, okay, we need to do this. Um, as soon as possible, or, you know, we give like this outrageous deadline to do her goal. When you know, I’m going to save $20,000 in a month.
[00:10:22] Wendi: And, you know, maybe you could do that right. According to your timeline, but I, can’t not, not a corner according to what I’m making each month. And so that’s something that I’m, you know, in a rush and then maybe this is what happens to. I then, um, start comparing like, okay, okay. This person can do it. I can do it. Or, you know, um, I could do it.
[00:10:45] Wendi: You know, 10 years ago, right. When I was, you know, very motivated to work out at four in the morning and then at 6:00 PM in the evening. Yeah. I. I was motivated. Like I was, you know, that, that was just something that I did 10 years ago. Now I can barely get to the gym at five 30. [00:11:00] And so again, right. Like we start comparing how we were 10 years ago, or even like 10 months ago, or maybe even comparing ourselves to other people, how they achieved it.
[00:11:10] Wendi: And that short period of time. And so that’s the biggest mistake we could do at the very beginning. Right? Like why would we set ourselves up? To fail right away. Knowing. That that’s something that it’s not one attain both in that timeframe. So we’re typically just doing this. So that we could quote unquote, motivate ourselves, right? Give our souls, maybe that extra push.
[00:11:35] Wendi: Or maybe to really just, you know, figure out, you know, where we are in the mark, right. Or maybe we just think that that’s going to help us get there faster. So that’s mistake number one. Mistake number two, then this is what happened. So when you’re thinking, okay, I need to get to that goal ASAP.
[00:11:53] Wendi: Then you start doing all these things. That are extra. That [00:12:00] are quote unquote, helping you feel better in the moment that you are actually moving in the right direction. So to give you an example of this. Again, let’s just say, um, going back to, um, let’s just say the, the losing weight, or it could be the losing weight or saving money either way.
[00:12:18] Wendi: You know, I start going to the gym three times a day. I start, you know, maybe starving myself or maybe I just, um, you know, start doing the whole, what would they call it? Like the calorie, um, The counting stuff and measuring and weighing all these other things. Right. So I’m doing extra things to help me feel better about me ensuring or believing that I’m going to get to my goal.
[00:12:43] Wendi: And then not keeping in mind that, oh, by the way, I still have to maintain this for the next 11 months or for the next rest of my life. And so now we’re going into not only we’re, we’re in a rush, right? And comparing ourselves to others, maybe to our past [00:13:00] self, because 10 years I could do it a little differently.
[00:13:03] Wendi: But then we go into hustle mode. Like we’re start doing things just because we think that that’s going to help us. Not only feel that emotion that we need to drive us into action. But we go into hustle mode and then we even go into burnout. So mistake number two is really where a lot of us kind of fall off.
[00:13:23] Wendi: A lot of us are like, okay, is this worth it? I’m only on day four. And I’m exhausted and I can’t do this anymore. And oh, by the way. I just, you know, I’ll start again next month or I’ll start again next week. You know, like with the saving money, right? Like I’m going to save all my money and I’m only going to spend $20 this week.
[00:13:43] Wendi: And by the way you have the pump gas and oh, by the way, you have to eat. And oh, by the way, there are other expenses. That you have to pay for. Right. So. You know, then you go into, okay. Possibly, you know, And I’m going to find two other side hustles. I’m going to, you know, Uber, I’m [00:14:00] going to go find Millo part-time here. I’m going to babysit. I’m going to dog sit, whatever may be.
[00:14:04] Wendi: Now you’re like, again, going into hustle mode, you’re like, okay. I’m going, I’m working my nine to five. I’m doing this. I’m doing that. You’re getting pulled from every single direction. And again, here, exhausted. You’re burnt out. But here’s another reason why two are kind of like coming from that mentality of I’m just going to go into do mode, right. Nothing wrong with that.
[00:14:25] Wendi: But the problem here is that it stemmed from this thought of, I need to get to my goal as soon as possible. Or I need to get there sooner than Susie did sooner than Bob, sooner than bill. I’m just throwing out names here sooner than Maria over there, because she’s killing the game. Whatever, whoever it may be.
[00:14:45] Wendi: It starts from you wanting to do this. Again, like you just want to like break the record for some reason in your mind. And maybe you’re not seeing that, or you’re not thinking that exact thought. But in your [00:15:00] mind, you’re like I’m going to accomplish this. And I’m going to accomplish it. Now. Or I should have accomplished this yesterday.
[00:15:08] Wendi: That’s that, that was me too. Like, I’m like, okay. I need to get this. Done like yesterday I should have started 30 days ago. But no, here I am. Right. So why would I then torture myself or even make this go even unattainable? If I begin with that mentality, right. That I need to get to that goal as soon as possible.
[00:15:30] Wendi: Because then what happens? I started doing all the things that I think are going to help me feel. Motivated and encouraged. Two. Do that one thing or to do those 30 things that I’m doing in order for me to feel that one emotion that I’m seeking, right. Because that’s really what goals are. You are seeking this emotion, this relief, this, um, emotion that helps you feel accomplished. That’s why we go for goals. We want to feel better than we do now. We want to be in a better place. [00:16:00] That’s typically why we have goals.
[00:16:02] Wendi: And it’s almost take number three.
[00:16:03] Wendi: You wait. Until you get to the goal to feel that emotion that you’re actually seeking.
[00:16:10] Wendi: And this is what happens when you are doing that. You are missing out on the journey. You are missing out on filling. Successful and accomplished and. Joy in the moment. You’re not showing up as yourself. You’re showing up at this as this person. That is waiting on the goal to help them. Or waiting on the finished goal.
[00:16:38] Wendi: To, to the, for you to get to the dream in order for you, for you to feel that way, when you could literally create that feeling now, right? Like it begins with you understanding. That you can show up for yourself today in that way. You can show up feeling successful regardless of what it may be. Right. Let’s say it’s losing 30 pounds. [00:17:00]
[00:17:00] Wendi: You can show up as if you are ready. Lost that weight. How would you then. Act behave. 30 pounds lighter. You would. Obviously B. Not only, um, taking care of your, your health taken care of, you know, what goes in your mouth of what you’re eating, what you’re consuming, but also what you’re doing, right. You’re maybe not going to the gym, but now you’re running or you’re staying active, whatever that looks like for you.
[00:17:29] Wendi: But why not do that now instead of waiting for you to somehow magically lose the weight. And then start doing that. Or saving the money, right. Or actually investing X amount of money. What if you start being an investor now, even if it’s with $20 a month. Investing something. Or whatever that may be for you.
[00:17:51] Wendi: Start showing up successful. In that way. Showing up. Okay. I am the person. That will save X amount of money. Imminent [00:18:00] be the 20 K a month at the moment, but I’m still going to show up as accomplished in that way. How would Wendi show up? When she’s saving this much money. Oh, I wouldn’t be. You know, um, overspending on, I don’t know, clothing shoes, whatever it may be.
[00:18:19] Wendi: You know, I won’t be over spending on. There was something that doesn’t even need to be a part of my life. Right? Like things that we don’t need. Whatever that may look like for her. And so, or whatever it may look like for you. And so again, how do you. Stop awaiting. Until, or how do you stop waiting for that filling?
[00:18:41] Wendi: Until you get to the, to the goal, right? Like you just start feeling now. That’s that’s. My biggest thing now is focus every day. To show up with that feeling. Now you may be thinking, okay, when you, well, You know, I just want to [00:19:00] feel. You know this certain feeling when I accomplish this goal and that’s just how I want it to be.
[00:19:06] Wendi: And that’s completely fine, but what I’m offering you today is to not wait. Until that day. So. You can, you know, start feeling that emotion that you want, right. Accomplished, successful, dedicated, committed, whatever it may be for you winning whatever it is. You can start filling that along the way.
[00:19:29] Wendi: And trust me, he, of course, it’s going to be stressful. It’s going to be overwhelming some days. Trust me. I get like that even now when I’m like, okay. How am I really going to get to this goal by the end of the year? How am I really going to, um, you know, actually get this done. If I’m only 10% there.
[00:19:47] Wendi: You know, and I’m talking about my podcast right now. I’m talking about my coaching program. I’m talking about. You know, different goals that I have for this year that I want to actually meet. And as you guys know, one of my, one of the podcasts goals [00:20:00] is the podcast downloads to get to 25 K. And so for me, it’s like, oh my gosh,
[00:20:05] Wendi: I’m barely over the halfway mark. It’s July. It’s really almost August. By the time this episode publishes. So again, like where are we along the way? Right. Like, I could be showing up as if you know what, I’m not going to make that. Go forget it. I’m not gonna do any more marketing. I’m not going to send nothing to my email, through my email. I’m just not going to continue to show up every week. It’s going to be okay.
[00:20:28] Wendi: You know, I’m going to find something else to focus on. Because that is why or that’s what happens when we make these three mistakes. We then go into. Being stuck. Or. Just completely dismissing this goal and moving onto something different. But here’s the common denominator. If you have found yourself.
[00:20:52] Wendi: Doing this, not only with one specific thing or one specific area of your life, maybe relationships, right. [00:21:00] Maybe you’re like, okay, I need a find me a date, or I need to find a partner ASAP. Like I’m overdue. I should have been, you know, Married right now, whatever that may look like for you. You’re rushing, right? You’re in a rush. So what do you do you go into hustle mode, maybe in a way where you’re not even trying to date, or maybe you go in a way where you’re just overdoing it.
[00:21:19] Wendi: And you’re not getting anywhere, right. You’re not focusing on that one. Actual goal and oh, by the way, instead of feeling loved and joyful and you know, part of this, just human relationship nature. You you’re waiting until you get to that relationship to feel that way, to feel excited and joyful when just, you know,
[00:21:41] Wendi: Lovable. I want to say, I don’t know if that’s a word, but you want to wait. To feel that until you get into a relationship. I’m offering the opposite. Feel that way now. Start feeling amazing, excited, joyful, loving. As if you were already in a serious relationship, how would you show up? What do you show up [00:22:00] differently? Of course you would show up differently.
[00:22:02] Wendi: Getting that new job, that promotion. How would you show up now? And so this is why. I see that these are the top three mistakes that a lot of women are, are making. Because most of us. Try to keep our personal desires or goals or big dreams somewhere hidden in the closet or hidden in an archive. And we’re like, okay, nobody needs to know that these are our goals.
[00:22:27] Wendi: Because we’re not even anywhere near close to that. I don’t have time for them. And if I do. Um, I’m going to go ahead and just do as much as I can as fast as they can. And then all by the way. Not allowing myself to feel the way that I really want to feel. Right. Like accomplished successful in love.
[00:22:47] Wendi: Um, the Terman committed to whatever it may be. Because you want to wait. So again, Those are the three mistakes that we make. And trust me, I’ve made these along the way. I’m like, you know what? [00:23:00] This is not a good idea. Let me just pause, take a break, rethink this, continue to be in self-doubt and just, you know what, I don’t think this is for me. I’m just going to stay stuck right here because it’s more comfortable.
[00:23:13] Wendi: It’s safe. And that’s really what our brain tells us. You know what it’s okay. Just. Don’t say anything. You’ll be fine. Move on to something. Very discreetly. Something else that maybe no one’s ever going to notice. But here’s the thing we repeat the cycle. We’re like, okay. How do I do this now in the next 30 days or in the next seven days? Whatever it may be.
[00:23:33] Wendi: And so now you may be thinking, okay, Wendi will thank you for the great three mistakes of make or the three mistakes that we make. But now how do I end this? Right? Like, how do I, now I know what the mistakes are. How do I know now? Go from. Understanding the mistakes to not making those mistakes.
[00:23:51] Wendi: And of course it all goes down to boils down to awareness, like right. You’re like literally. Literally doing it now, you’re understanding. That. Okay. I [00:24:00] may or may not be doing this or maybe. You’re possibly only getting to the mistake. Number two. And then you’re like, you know what? I’m burnt out. I’m done.
[00:24:09] Wendi: Like, I’m going to move on something else. Or. I’m just going to minimize my goal. Right. You know what I’m going to dim my light a little bit. I don’t. I think I could do 25,000 downloads this year. I’m just going to make it light. 15. 15,000. Cause I’m so close to 15,000 and that’s more realistic.
[00:24:25] Wendi: And that makes me feel more comfortable. And that doesn’t make me go into hustle mode, right? Like that could be me. But I don’t want to do that. I don’t want to do my light. I don’t want to stop. Showing up for others that are possibly not only going to benefit from this podcast, but may also transform their lives. You never know. Right. I don’t know that.
[00:24:46] Wendi: But it begins with awareness. So step number one. Being aware. Become aware as you are now, you’re listening to this podcast or this episode. So you don’t track. Number two is stop thinking that. [00:25:00] Thought that root of the problem, right? Why do you want to finish this? Or why are you in a rush to, to get to this goal?
[00:25:09] Wendi: So, and this is what I mean for me, the reason I set this goal, 24,000. Is not because I think that this is a make or break it, right. I’m not like, okay, if I don’t make 25,000 downloads this year on my podcast, then I’m just going to stop and I’m going to move on something different. Or if I make 25,000 downloads a year.
[00:25:30] Wendi: I’m going to. Post three. Episodes a week. No, that’s not. What’s going to happen next year. I can promise you that that is not going to happen. But what I will tell you that. Let’s just say I don’t make my goal. Let’s just say I. My downloads for this year will be 15,000. Let’s just say. By December 31st.
[00:25:51] Wendi: It would be a 15,000. Then for me. That’s that’s completely fine. It’s all a math game. Okay. I’m at 50,000. Downloads [00:26:00] now. How can I get to 25,000 by the next year? Right? Like what. Have I done. Um, Wrong or maybe that I need to improve on and what do I need to do differently? How can I now show up in a different way?
[00:26:16] Wendi: To help me get to the 25 K right. And so showing up as if I already met that goal, I’ll already hit the 25,000 K downloads. How do I then show up? Okay. I may invite more guests. I may even be on other platforms to help me promote my podcast to help me spread the word about. How I am helping other military woman.
[00:26:39] Wendi: And so that’s the difference that for me is why accept that number one, because it was a very. You know, audacious. Goal for me, I’m like, okay, you know what? Go bigger. Go home. I’m doing it. And it’s going to be completely okay. If I don’t. If I don’t make it, I’m not in a rush. I’m not in a rush to make 25 K.
[00:26:59] Wendi: The only [00:27:00] difference here is that that is my goal for today. I mean, for this year, So if I do make a great, if I don’t, I got some work to do. In a way that it’s serving to everyone. In a way that is serving to anyone, listening in, in a way that it’s serving me and my family. ’cause the last thing I want to do is going to burn out and stop doing the show.
[00:27:19] Wendi: For the next whatever many years, I actually don’t plan on stopping. But again, That’s not my decision. So. Again, Being aware of the mistakes that you’re making. To stop thinking that thought that has started you or has initiated this hustle mentality, this hustle mode, this burnt out. And so three is focusing on doing only what is needed and where you can handle.
[00:27:45] Wendi: And here’s the thing y’all like, there’s so many things right now. There’s so many tools. New social media platforms coming up. I mean, there’s so many things, right. It’s so easy to want to get fancy. It’s so easy to do the thousand other things that everybody [00:28:00] else is doing because Susie and bill and Marie are doing it.
[00:28:03] Wendi: No. We have to keep it simple. So focus only on what you need to do that is needed and that you can handle what’s your bandwidth, like, really be honest with yourself about that. And in the last piece is for you to show up. Every single day as if you already got to the goal. Let’s just say your business goal is to make $50,000 for the next, from today, all the way to the end of the year or a hundred thousand dollars for a year.
[00:28:33] Wendi: And you’re nowhere near it. Completely. Okay. How do you show up as if you’re already making that much money? How do you show up as if you’re already coaching 20 clients? How do you show up as if you already lost the weight as if you’re already in that new position, how do you show up as if you’re already there?
[00:28:53] Wendi: And by that, I mean, I don’t mean, you know, Show up, like, let’s say you’re like, okay, I want to make a hundred thousand dollars a year. I’m not saying [00:29:00] show up and start spending that much money. I’m saying show up in a way of service on how you’re going to show up for yourself. And how you’re going to show up for others. So meaning.
[00:29:14] Wendi: You know, I may not have the 25,000. Downloads right now. But how do I show up as if I already did? Like, what’s the content that I’m creating? What’s the information that I’m putting out. And so to me, That’s what. Literally keeps me focused. Okay. That’s my goal. I’m going to be eventually. Hosting this podcast to 25.
[00:29:41] Wendi: Thousand different people or maybe the S the same people. But there will be. You know, an additional 15,000 or less than that, because our normal, like 14 ish. In additional, let’s just say 10,000 that I’m going to be catering to. How do I then show [00:30:00] up? How do I show up from a place of. Not only, um, acceptance of where I am, but also a place of where I’m going. Right? Like how do I need to speak?
[00:30:12] Wendi: To everyone, how do I need to show up? I don’t want to show up tired. I don’t wanna show up exhausted. And, you know, I’m doing like 30 different things with my podcast and, you know, trying to figure out these other 50 things with my other 50 goals. Like, no, I want to show up. As if I’m already. Not only presenting myself in that way, but also being there.
[00:30:34] Wendi: For that. You know, next couple of months or however long it takes me. I can take years. I don’t know. But again, that’s how you end this cycle that you may be in. You don’t know. Everyone is different. And some people just start. With just going into like hustle mode. And they don’t even know why, how they got there. Right. And so I’m offering you to take a moment and become aware, [00:31:00] something in that thought focused on only doing what is needed. And of course, when you can handle.
[00:31:05] Wendi: And then the final thing is to show up every day as if you already there as if you’re already. Achieving that goal. And here’s the most important piece. If you take anything out of this. He’s really focusing. On your personal goals on your personal desires, because we really forget to do that. We have this tendency of just focusing on everybody else’s and there’s nothing wrong with that, right? Like we’re, we’re a woman of service we love to serve. We love to give back. We have to give, but at the same time, let’s not make that an excuse or a reason.
[00:31:38] Wendi: For you not shining your light for you not showing up who God wants you to be. For you not putting in that piece of your own puzzle, into this. Huge puzzle called life. That’s really the focus here. And listen, if you need help, if you’re like Wendi, I’m stuck. I got stuck in mistake. Number two, I went ahead and did all the things I got fancy knowing I [00:32:00] didn’t have the time or the bandwidth to get these things done. And you need help ending the cycle regardless of where you are. I can help you.
[00:32:07] Wendi: And if this is you, I want to invite you to schedule a free consultation with me. All you have to do is go to wendiwray.com/consult. It’s also in the show notes. And when you schedule a 45 minute call with me, not only will you find out the reason that you’re not following through with either your, to do list your tasks, your goals.
[00:32:29] Wendi: But you’ll also be able to together. We’re going to uncover at least one limiting belief that is keeping you stuck and even unmotivated. And then here’s like the final thing that I am just super excited about. We are going to create a step-by-step plan. Of exactly not only what you need moving forward to be more intentional with what you’re focusing on.
[00:32:53] Wendi: But also the plan, the strategy, really to get things done. To get to the [00:33:00] next phase of where you’re at now, because where you’re at now. Is not only a place where I always want to emphasize to really own and take full responsibility of, but also to move forward to be okay. And, and, you know, have some grace and just.
[00:33:17] Wendi: Be able to move in the direction that you want to begin moving in. And so if this is for you again, If this is something that you feel that this is what you need in your life right now, because not only, you know, you’ve been maybe postponing or procrastinating on the things you want to get done, but you’re also been in nine year, like true desires that you want to get accomplished. Uh, maybe not this year, but maybe just in the future. And don’t know where to begin schedule a free call with me 45 minutes. Promise you, these are going to be the best 45 minutes that you’ve invested, not only for yourself, but for your future. I hope that this episode of blessed you and that encourages you to focus on you and the desires that you have, but also to find a way to [00:34:00] continue to move forward. All right. Have a great rest of your day. Talk to you soon bye
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[00:34:33] Wendi: Again, it is. Bitly beyond the military G R P. All right. Talk to you soon. Bye.