Episode 157: 3 Reasons Simple is Better and how it benefits you and others!

March 15, 2023

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Hey Lady, 

In today’s episode, we go over the 3 reasons you should focus on simple and simplifying tasks can be beneficial.

  • [00:00:00] Wendi: Hello ladies. And welcome to episode [00:01:00] 157. I hope that you’re having an amazing day so far and that you’re ready for the week where ever, regardless of where you’re at. I hope that you’re getting after it. I hope that you are being super intentional and just focused on making progress, because one of the reasons why I’m recording this episode,
  • [00:01:18] Wendi: It’s because I had to remind myself that as long as I’m moving forward, I am on the right track. Yes, there will be bumps. Yes. There will be hurdles. Yes. There will be days. I don’t feel like doing anything. Yes, there will be also days that I don’t get enough sleep, but Hey, at the end of the day, I am grateful. I am thankful for where a man. I am just.
  • [00:01:39] Wendi: Super blessed and just grateful for all the great things that are happening and all the great people around me. You know, not to. Um, even mentioned, you know, the people that work for remotely, um, the clients that I know serving this year, I am just super grateful for where I [00:02:00] am in my personal life, in my professional life, in my coaching with this podcast.
  • [00:02:07] Wendi: With my finances with everything right now, I am just in this. Um, And this kind of like phase of, you know, evolving in, in every little area, you know, even my relationship with my husband, with my kids. Um, we literally just had a, um, you know, a great conversation with my daughter that, you know, it wasn’t the easiest, but I was just so grateful and thankful and, you know, I, I was so grateful and you don’t have to pray and thank God that he has given me this opportunity, you know, to have these uncomfortable conversations with my daughter as she’s turning 11 this year.
  • [00:02:51] Wendi: And I just want to continue to grow and become, you know, this better human and continue to use the tools. [00:03:00] The. Gifts that God has given me either. You. If it’s through this platform here, or even just, you know, talking to someone at the grocery store or even, you know, while I’m getting my coffee, but I am in this place and I just wanted to share with you all. And I’m just hoping and praying that to wherever you are in your life, whatever season you’re in, if you’re transitioning, you know, from one stage to the next, you know, as, as you guys know, I’m still pushing through and.
  • [00:03:28] Wendi: Um, really taking in this. Um, Um, season of Crieff season of last season of, um, you know, Just understanding that this has happened. And I have, you know, lost someone very special and important in my life and kind of how do I continue to move on, even when it’s hard, even when. You know, sometimes don’t want to, and it’s okay if I don’t want to.
  • [00:03:55] Wendi: You know, focus on certain things because. I’m not ready yet. Right. And [00:04:00] so when I was thinking about future episodes and you know, what should I talk about next? And you know, the month of March and the month of April and may so on and so forth. And I had to take a moment and just say, I’m going to squeeze this one in, because I, it literally took me a moment to realize that.
  • [00:04:18] Wendi: I just need to focus on simple. And being as direct as possible, keeping it simple. Kind of like, we get taught in the military, right? Like what’s the bottom line upfront. And that’s kind of like where I want you to focus this, not only today, but this week and you know, how can it make things more simple? How can I simplify things? How can I make this? Not only.
  • [00:04:42] Wendi: Simple on myself with simple for others, maybe even making it easier on yourself and for others. And I have heard this before from not only for my coach. But from other, um, leaders as well, where, you know, they, they always say, you know, keep it simple. You guys know that [00:05:00] kiss acronym that I really don’t like, but it’s pretty much keep it simple. Stupid.
  • [00:05:04] Wendi: Um, and what I go back to when I’m, you know, putting my program together, when I’m thinking about my future clients and I’m thinking about, you know, launching my coaching again, not only through social media, but also through here. And start creating. You know, tell him my calendar for these opportunities for when I am ready for when I know that this is something that I have to go all in on, or actually, I don’t want to say that I have to, because I don’t want, I want to go all in on.
  • [00:05:31] Wendi: And I think about simple, right? So I figured, you know, why not share this method? And I always ask myself, like, why do I need to keep it simple? Or why do I need to do whatever it is I’m thinking, right. So what do I need to do this? Like, what’s the reason behind this and what’s the, so why? And what’s the why?
  • [00:05:45] Wendi: So when I so forth, And when I was thinking about why do I need to keep it simple, Wendy? Like, why do I need to continue to dig deeper into simplicity in to simplifying things? Not only for my family, but also for [00:06:00] my personal. Um, evolutions my personal growth and the personal goals that I have and you know, where do I continue to.
  • [00:06:09] Wendi: Um, Where do I continue to put this in? And how do I do that? And so that’s what this episode is all about. Simplifying. And I’m going to give you three reasons why you want to simplify. And really important and the benefits of course. Because at the end of the day, I want you to not only leave. This episode or finish this episode with this in mind and really understanding, you know, like what can I take out of this and how can I apply this to my life? And it could be, you know, wherever you are in, in any season of your life, you may be transitioning out of the military.
  • [00:06:43] Wendi: You may be getting married. Oh my gosh. Which, by the way, Um, one of my best friends is getting married and I’m so excited about that too. It’s like a whole nother level of excitement and a whole nother level of, um, just trying to. Take all of it in and just be grateful for where I am [00:07:00] and super happy for my friend. And it’s just so exciting.
  • [00:07:03] Wendi: Um, And so again, keeping it simple, right? Like whatever it is, whatever season you’re in, maybe you’re having a baby. Maybe you’re a brand new mom and you just have a newborn, right. Keeping a simple. I don’t want to make this simple and not complicate things. So the three reasons that you want to keep it simple are.
  • [00:07:23] Wendi: These and we’re going to go, we’re going to deep dive into each one. You minimize negative emotion. Too. It saves you time in three, you make progress. Towards your goal, you make progress to, towards a result that you’re looking for for that specific thing. So one, it minimize it, minimize this negative emotion. And by that, I mean it avoids confusion.
  • [00:07:45] Wendi: It minimizes overwhelm. You are less stressed. You’re less anxious. And also it leaves less space. For you too. Gold then, and try to avoid [00:08:00] that negative emotion, right? Because what happens when there’s a negative emotion that comes up. People don’t want to sit in the discomfort. People don’t want to be like, oh my gosh, I’m going to just sit here and just anxiety and stress and confusion. No, we go to the pantry. We Netflix, we distract ourselves into something that’s going to.
  • [00:08:18] Wendi: Do the opposite of that, right. Which is going to give us. Um, hit of dopamine. That’s what we look for. That’s what we go for. So again, We want to be able to keep it simple. And by that, I mean, Not over-complicating things. So if you’re getting married, You don’t have to start with every single detail.
  • [00:08:39] Wendi: That, um, is going to happen or every little thing that you have no idea about, right? Like, for example, The video and the DJ, and you probably have no idea where even to begin, you have no idea what a good DJ or a good videographer would look like. Or you have no idea where to begin with your transition.
  • [00:08:57] Wendi: And you just. [00:09:00] Immediately. Going to the, um, the, the fancy, or like the, the, the things that are not simple, right. Instead of starting with, okay. I know. I’m going to need to budget for an actual event planner. I’m going to have to, um, you know, budget for X, Y, Z, or if I don’t have the budget, I can, you know, look elsewhere. Maybe family. Oh, I know of a friend.
  • [00:09:28] Wendi: That is, um, you know, knows of a event planner that works with your budget, whatever it may be. And when you simplify things or you begin to simplify things, you begin to minimize that negative emotion for you. It could be confusion. It could be overwhelm. It could be stress. It could be anxiety. And in, in here’s the thing, it may not even just be confusion for you.
  • [00:09:52] Wendi: But also confusion for others for your significant other, for your family. Like. People were confused. I mean, I, I used to be really confused [00:10:00] on how this whole transition. Process of work and I was HR. I’m like, okay, so do I do this first? Or do I go to SFL tap first? Or do I talk to my husband first?
  • [00:10:08] Wendi: Or like which one comes first. And then, because I was, over-complicating my plan. I was like, you know what? I don’t want to deal with any of this confusion, this overwhelm. I’m just going to go ahead and not even talk about this transition thing and just stay at work because I don’t even want it to be brought up at home.
  • [00:10:27] Wendi: I don’t want to have this conversation with my husband and not have an answer. And so what I do, I’m just going to stay at work. I’m going to pretend that I just live and breathe and do work all day every single day to include the weekends to include the 40 weekends. And so again, it minimizes negative emotion.
  • [00:10:42] Wendi: And by that, like I said earlier, It also minimizes the opportunity of YouTube buffer for you too. Replace this negative emotion with something that’s going to give you a positive. Emotion, which another words I hit of dopamine ahead of. Okay. This [00:11:00] feels good in the moment that immediate gratification.
  • [00:11:03] Wendi: And so that then linked into saving time. And helps you. To not only get a planning, a plan in place, but it helps you go to the next decision that you need to make. So, for example, again, if you simplify things, if you begin to, and again, I’m just going to use a wedding analogy or the transition analogy. If you begin to simplify things on, you know, exactly.
  • [00:11:29] Wendi: What the main things are in you simplify the plan for yourself. It’s a lot easier for you now in quicker to make a decision on. Okay. Do I have the money, the budget, or will I even budget for an event planner? Yes or no? Boom. Yes, you already have an answer. Now you move on to the next decision. Okay.
  • [00:11:49] Wendi: Do I need to resource this? Um, if a man, I mean, a planner or is this something that I want to do and focus on myself? And now you’re moving onto the next thing and the [00:12:00] next task on your list for that Yvette or for that season of your life. So if you’re transitioning out. You already know that. Okay. The.
  • [00:12:09] Wendi: The possibility is there. I’m going to stop the conversation. Okay, great. I’m going to talk to my husband or my spouse on X date. Okay, what’s next. Let’s talk about the dates or when would it be a great time for us to make this move? So on and so forth and you continue to not only. Um, Use the time that you do have, but now you’re making more time based on the decisions that you are making you’re done with one task. You go onto the next.
  • [00:12:35] Wendi: The more you can simplify and you can literally talk to. Or break it down in a third grade level, the better it will be. And that’s it. This is exactly what I’m doing with my program. I’m like, how do I simplify this? Um, tactic and this skill in a way where it will literally take my clients three to five minutes to consume.
  • [00:12:58] Wendi: And to [00:13:00] also. Um, apply. As, as you know, an action. Something that they can, um, really too. Within a matter of minutes, not something that they have to, you know, listen and tune in for 20 minutes on a video. And then they have to do another 50 minutes of work. And now, you know, they’re overwhelmed. Right? I don’t want to overwhelm my clients. I don’t want to overwhelm.
  • [00:13:24] Wendi: My, my kids. I don’t want to overwhelm my husband by just, you know, giving all this information. And I have no decisions. And now we’re both confused. We’re both overwhelmed or both anxious. We don’t know what decisions to make, which by the way, my husband’s opposite of me. He will literally make a decision today and he will take action on it immediately.
  • [00:13:45] Wendi: And he’ll probably be the one that. Um, it takes me out of the whole confusion, but any whom. What I’m saying here is it simplifies it for not only you yourself, but also for others. And it saves everyone time. And even more. So you’re [00:14:00] now making time for other decisions to be made. And the third one moving you towards progress. Again, you’re making decisions and you’re no longer in this like fancy.
  • [00:14:12] Wendi: You know, overwhelming, confusing environment. And by that, I mean, You know, you are the one that knows what goals or what results you want. Right. So for example, it takes transitioning out of the military. You know that you want a smooth transition, right? Who doesn’t, who doesn’t want to have, you know, a career lined up and ensure that their finances are in check and, you know, families relocated and the kids are just, you know, going to school.
  • [00:14:41] Wendi: Um, you know, on the timeline that you haven’t everything, all that well, or as, as planned. But at the same time, You are so focused on, you know, all the little things ahead of time that you forget that at the end of the day, you only need to focus on the big. [00:15:00] Um, milestones or on the actual milestone milestones itself at the very beginning.
  • [00:15:05] Wendi: And so you don’t realize. That you are actually, um, planning to make progress every single day, instead of, you know, in the next 10 months, right? You want the end goal, the end result right away. So what is going to help you is to really understand that no matter what decision you make today, And let’s say you act on it and you, um,
  • [00:15:30] Wendi: You know, make some, some, um, actions or you put some actions. Um, towards that. But it doesn’t. Go as planned. Let’s just say you’re like, oh, okay, great. I got the job. They sent me an offer, but then, you know, there, they had to relook at their budget and they can no longer relocate me. So now I have to relocate myself and, oh, by the way.
  • [00:15:53] Wendi: Already submitted my relocation stuff, you know, to the military and it’s just not going to work out. And [00:16:00] now I have to, you know, use TennCare out of pocket. So now what. At least now, you know, based on how you were simplifying. Your, your plan. You now know that, okay. Now you just have to figure this other decision out, right? Like.
  • [00:16:17] Wendi: What is it that you’re still, that you are still doing? Like, how can you, again, simplify. This need this task. Because the more you can do this, the more you’re simplifying and simplifying every single time you have a goal every single time, there’s a task. The better you could add it. The skill that you’re building.
  • [00:16:37] Wendi: You’re still moving towards your goal. No matter what. You’re still making progress. No matter what. At the end of the day, you may need to take out a loan. You may need to borrow money from friends. You may need to take out of your savings account. You may need to, um, you know, maybe. Readjust your, your leave time, whatever that may look like for you, or maybe [00:17:00] get another job.
  • [00:17:01] Wendi: You know, in the meantime, whatever that looks like for you. What I’m saying here is that you’re allowing yourself to continue to build that skill of how do I simplify this? How can I make this more simple than what it seems like? Because most of the time, especially when we obstacles, when we get challenges, we love to overcomplicate and we want to get fancy for some reason.
  • [00:17:20] Wendi: And we’re like, okay, This is a lot. How do I deal with this major challenge with this major struggle, this major. Um, Challenge that I have here faced in front of me. That, which by the way, was not something that I, you know, chose or something that I had any control over. So when you allow yourself to simplify.
  • [00:17:43] Wendi: Each and every single time that your mind is like, okay, this is complicated. Where do we begin? And you begin to simplify things. You are now building that skill, which again is going to keep you moving forward. I promise you like this is only, it only gets better from here. Like I’ve been doing [00:18:00] this.
  • [00:18:00] Wendi: For the last couple of years. And I promise you that there are so many things like even now I’m at work, there’s a project that I’m working on that now something is due within four weeks. What do I do? How do I simplify this? I don’t immediately go into panic mode and I’m like, oh my gosh, this is so overwhelming. What do I need to do? Let me go away sometime on Netflix or let me go waste my time and pretend it isn’t here.
  • [00:18:24] Wendi: No, I simplify things. Okay. What do I need to know? This is a hard date. This is the new hard date. Okay. What’s next? What else do I know? What else can I, you know, who can I communicate with? How can I use my time? Now in a better way that I was 24 hours ago, because I had no idea that the deadline had changed.
  • [00:18:42] Wendi: And so again, at the end of the day, I’m simplifying a lot of the tasks. A lot of the questions that NABI before was just a question. Now I’m answering the question, right? And that is the level and kind of like what. I want to offer you to step into, [00:19:00] to ask herself, how do I simplify this challenge, this task, this need this immediate.
  • [00:19:08] Wendi: Emergency or this need that is happening in the moment or how do I simplify this goal that I have. And, you know, kidding you, the reasons why. Is only my, my, um, my hope that you not only move into, you know, okay. I know that it’s going to create negative emotion. If I don’t simplify it, I know that I’m gonna waste time. And I know that I’m going to probably be stuck for a while.
  • [00:19:32] Wendi: If I don’t simplify this. So by you simplifying it, you will minimize that negative emotion. I’m not saying that it won’t happen because it will, don’t get me wrong. I was a little confused earlier and I was a little overwhelmed on. You know, some hard dates changing. But guess what I was like, okay, how do I simplify this? How do I get to a point where simple is better? How do I get to a point where it’s so simple for my clients, for them to understand it, this content.
  • [00:19:58] Wendi: To immediately go [00:20:00] and actually implement it. And so again, it allows my brain to create that space. For answers that are going to be productive. They’re going to be useful. They’re going to be helpful, not only for me, but also for others. And that’s what I encourage you to do today to help you and only get to where you want to go, but also to help you overcome simple.
  • [00:20:23] Wendi: Um, not, not simple. To overcome. Task, even if they’re small tasks that may not seem simple, but for you to simplify them so that you can continue to move forward towards your goal. All right, ladies. I hope this was super helpful and beneficial. And. listen . If you think that this episode has helped you in all the episodes that you’re listening to.
  • [00:20:45] Wendi: And maybe this is your first time and you fill up this episode was helpful and beneficial to you I welcome you. And I encourage you to leave me a review on Apple podcasts. All you have to do is go to Apple . Podcasts and go [00:21:00] there, rate the podcast and also leave me a note. Tell me what you’re loving about this show. Tell me what you’re loving about this episode or a specific episode.
  • [00:21:08] Wendi: I’d be happy to read. What you have and what, um, what you have learned and possibly how else I can continue to serve you. All right. Have a beautiful rest of your week. Talk to you next week. Bye.
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